Umxholo
Inkqubo ye-ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo Sisakhono sokuchonga, ukuqonda nokulawula ezakho iimvakalelo, ngendlela yokuba nesingqisho sobomi esilungeleleneyo esenza ubudlelwane kunye nabanye, kwaye kugxilwe kwiinjongo kunye neenjongo ngaphandle komngcipheko wokuzishiya ngenxa yeengxaki zomzuzwana.
Umxholo unxulumene nokunyuka kwesayensi yobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, eyaqala ukuvela ngamandla kwinkulungwane yama-20. Eli binzana lalisasazwa kuphela ekupheleni kwenkulungwane ngu UDaniel goleman, ethathela ingqalelo ukusebenza kwengqondo ngenye indlela kunaleyo yaziwayo, enamaziko okweemvakalelo kudala ngaphambi kwezi zinengqiqo ezichaza indlela avakalelwa kwaye acinge ngayo umntu. Ngale ndlela, ngokukaGoleman Iziko leemvakalelo linamandla amakhulu kunokuba lisaziwa ngokuchaphazela ukusebenza kwengqondo.
Yintoni ebandakanya ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo?
Umbono wokuphucula ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo ayikokutshintsha amandla omntu okuvelisa iimvakalelo, kodwa endaweni yoko impendulo yabo, ehlala inefuthe elifanayo okanye elininzi kubomi bemihla ngemihla kunemvakalelo uqobo.
Ngale ndlela, kuthiwa Abantu abanobukrelekrele obuphezulu beemvakalelo abaziva ubunzima okanye iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo, kodwa banako ukulinganisa nganye nganye kumlinganiselo wayo ofanelekileyo.
Ngokubanzi, zintathu izinto ezenza ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo:
- Ukuchongwa kweemvakalelo: Abantu bayakwazi ukwazi ukuba baziva njani maxa onke nokuba kutheni, kwaye ngale ndlela bayabona xa ukucinga nokuziphatha kwabo kuchatshazelwa zezi mvakalelo.
- Ukulawula iimvakaleloNgokusekwe kolo lwazi, bayakwazi ukulawula iimpembelelo zabo okanye iimpendulo ezingxamisekileyo ezibonakala ngathi zifunwa yingqondo, ukulinganisa iziphumo ezinokubakho xa oko kuyeka ngequbuliso.
- Chonga iimvakalelo zabanyeInto abanokuzenzela yona, banako ukuyenza nabanye. Ngale ndlela, banokuthi baqonde umzuzu xa omnye umntu ecaphukile ngenxa yesizathu esithile, kwaye ngale ndlela baphinde babuyele kwizenzo abazenzileyo kuloo meko.
Abantu abanezi mpawu bahlala Abantu abalungeleleneyo ekuhlaleni, abaphumayo, abonwabileyo nabathi endaweni zokukhathazeka babone iingxaki njengethuba lokukhula kunye nokuphuculwa.
Ukongeza, njengoko abantu behlala bejongana neemeko apho umbono wokuqala ubalulekile (ukudibana namaqabane, udliwanondlebe lomsebenzi), ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo buyeyona nto iphambili kwezi meko.
Imizekelo yeNgqondo yezeMvakalelo
Zininzi izinto ezibhaliweyo ngokubhekisele kubukrelekrele bemvakalelo, nangona kunjalo kukho izikhokelo ezinokuthi zibe yimizekelo, zinxulunyaniswe nokuziphatha kunye neendlela zokuphucula. Nalu uluhlu lwazo:
- Amava obuqu anokwenziwa ngokubanzi kwabanye, kodwa ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba. Ubuntu bomntu ngamnye kufuneka buqondwe.
- Cinga ngeempendulo ezenziwe kwangoko kwiimvakalelo, zama ukuzitolika kwaye ufunde kuzo.
- Kubalulekile ukuba nabantu onentembelo kubo yokubonisa ngendlela ephathekayo iimvakalelo oziva ngazo.
- Kuphephe ukukhuthaza iimvakalelo ezithile: iziyobisi zihlala zikho, icaffeine okanye iziyobisi ezahlukileyo ezinokuyenza le ndima, nto leyo ichasene nobukrelekrele bemvakalelo.
- Ingqondo ihlala igqobhoza iimvakalelo eziyinyani kwabanye: abantu bahlala benomsindo ukuze bangabonisi lusizi. Ukuyiqonda ngokwenyani indlela oziva ngayo yenye yezona ndawo ziphakamileyo zobukrelekrele bemvakalelo.
- Qonda indima yeemvakalelo emzimbeni, kwaye ungayigwebi inyani yokuziva ungalunganga okanye ulungile njengeyona nto ingaphezulu kunaleyo iyiyo: iimvakalelo ezidlulayo.
- Xabisa uloyiso lwabanye, ngaphandle kokuthelekisa rhoqo kunye nokwenza izigqibo ngobomi bakho.
- Abantu abanobukrelekrele obuphezulu beemvakalelo bayakwazi ukwamkela iimpazamo ezenziwe kwaye babaxolele, kodwa hayi ngokuyeka ukufunda kwizinto abazenzileyo.
- Abantu kufuneka bakwazi ukuchonga iimpazamo zabo, bangaweli kwi-narcissism apho bacinga ukuba benza yonke into kakuhle. Imalunga nokufumana ibhalansi.
- Isithuba sokuphucula ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo ebantwaneni kukudlala, ngakumbi ezemidlalo. Ukubonakaliswa kokulahlekelwa ngabo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba kwenza ukuba abo baphumeleleyo baphumelele bakwazi ukulinganisa ngokucacileyo ukuba yintoni na abo baphulukana nayo. Oku kuyaqhubeka ekusetyenzisweni kwezemidlalo kubantu abadala, nakwiimeko ezinje ngodliwanondlebe lomsebenzi.
