Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunye nokuPhezulu

Umxholo

• Iindidi zokuzithemba
• Iimpawu zomntu onokuzithemba okuphezulu
• Iimpawu zomntu onokuzithemba okuphantsi
• Ukuzithemba kunye nokufikisa
• Imizekelo yokuzithemba okuphezulu
• Imizekelo yokuzithemba okuphantsi

Inkqubo ye- imbeko Kukuzicingela okanye ukuqonda umntu anako ngaye. Lulwakhiwo oluqala ukubakho ebuntwaneni kwaye luqhubeke kubomi bonke. Lo mgaqo wokuzimela uguqulwa okanye uguqulwe ngokuxhomekeke kumava akho kunye nokusingqongileyo apho umntu akhula kwaye akhule khona.

Ndingubani, ndingubani, umzimba wam unjani, ziziphi izinto endizithandayo, lunjani ukusebenza kwam emsebenzini okanye kubudlelwane boluntu; iimpendulo umntu azinika yonke le mibuzo zenza umfanekiso abanawo ngokwabo.

Iindidi zokuzithemba

Ukuzithemba kunxulumene neengcinga ezinje ngokuzithemba nokuzithemba. Ihlala yahlulwe phakathi phezulu kunye nezantsi.

• Umntu one Ukuziphakamisa okuphezulu Nguye onokuzithemba kunye nokuziva okuphezulu kokuzixabisa. Unomnqweno onamandla kwaye ukhuthazekile kwaye unomdla. Ukhulisa imbonakalo enemfesane, eyiyo nenembeko kuye nakwabanye. Njengokuba: okwishumi elivisayo okhuthazwayo ukuba abonise ingoma ayiqambileyo.
• Umntu one ukuzithemba okuphantsi Yenye ekufumanisa kunzima ukuvavanya kunye nokuqonda iimpawu ezahlulahlula kwabanye. Unentetho engathandekiyo yangaphakathi, ukuzithemba okuncinci. Njengokuba: intombazana engadlali ibhola yevoli kunye nabo afunda nabo kuba esoyika ukuyenza gwenxa.

Uyilo lokuzithemba lineziseko zalo ebuntwaneni (zichaphazeleka ngabazali kunye nemeko yosapho). Kubo bonke ubomi bakhe, umntu unokusebenza kwiingcinga zakhe, kwisimo sakhe sengqondo kunye nakwicalucalulo ukuphucula ixabiso analo kuye.

Zombini ezi ntlobo zokuzithemba zinokujoliswa kwiimpawu ezithile zomntu okanye kumntu ngokubanzi. Njengokuba: Umntwana unokuziva engonwabanga ngalo lonke ixesha kufuneka esombulule ingxaki yezibalo kuba eziva engafanelekanga, kodwa angabonisa ukuzithemba okukhulu xa enxibelelana noontanga bakhe.

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Iimpawu zomntu onokuzithemba okuphezulu

• Jonga amandla ayo apheleleyo.
• Unokuzithemba ekumiseleni iinjongo kwaye uzama ukufikelela kuzo.
• Yenza imeko yothando nenkxaso macala onke kuye.
• Yenza imixokelelwane yentlonipho kunye novelwano kuye nakwabanye.
• Iyakhula: ukuzazi (ndiyazazi ukuba ndingubani), ukwamkelwa (ndiyazamkela ndinje), ukoyisa (ndizama ukuphucula into endiyiyo), ubunyani (ndibonisa kwaye ndabelana ngento endiyiyo).
• Inolungelelwano oluchukumisayo lweemvakalelo.
• Yazi imida kunye nobuthathaka kwaye uphile nabo.
• Thembela kwisigqibo sakho xa usenza isigqibo kwaye usenza.
• Iyabonwa ngesidima esilinganayo nabanye abantu.
• Qaphela ukwahluka kunye nokuhluka kobuchule, ubuntu kunye neetalente.

Iimpawu zomntu onokuzithemba okuphantsi

• Ibonisa ukungabikho kwemfesane kuye.
• Uqhele ukuzithelekisa nabanye.
• Funa ukuvunywa kwabanye abantu.
• Uziva ungazithembanga ngenkangeleko yakho okanye ubuchule bakho.
• Inokuthambekela ekuzihlukaniseni, ekuhluphekeni kwi-phobias yentlalo okanye ekuziva ungonwabanga kwaye ungaqondi.
• Ukuzithemba kwakhe okuphantsi kunokubangelwa kukusilela ekufezekiseni ulindelo lwabazali bakhe kuye.
• Kukhokelela kukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo.
• Akanakuncoma iitalente zakhe okanye aphile ngokuvisisana nobuthathaka bakhe.
• Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunokubangelwa yimpembelelo embi yabanye abantu okanye amava abuhlungu.
• Unokusebenza ujonge inkuthazo kwaye unike ukubaluleka kokuzixabisa ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho.

Ukuzithemba kunye nokufikisa

Ukuzithemba yingqondo evela kwingqondo. Ifakiwe yingcali yezengqondo u-Abraham Maslow ngaphakathi kwepiramidi (ithiyori yengqondo yeemfuno zabantu) njengesidingo esisisiseko sokuba umntu uyimfuneko kwisizathu sakhe, ukuzazi nokuziphucula.

Ixesha lokufikisa lixesha lotshintsho apho umntu adlula khona ukusuka ebuntwaneni ukuya kubomi babantu abadala. Kukho ukufunyanwa kwesazisi (ezengqondo, ezesondo, umdla). Kule nqanaba, iimvakalelo ezintsha kunye ne-stimuli zifunwa, intsimi yobudlelwane iyandiswa kwaye umfanekiso ngokwawo uhlanganisiwe. Inqanaba apho umntu okwishumi elivisayo azaziyo, efunda ukuzihlonipha kwaye omeleza ukuzithemba kwakhe.

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Imizekelo yokuzithemba okuphezulu

1. Utitshala okhuthaza ukuthatha inxaxheba kwabafundi eklasini.
2. Umfazi oqala ishishini lakhe.
3. Umntu onothando nomdla wokulungelwa kwabanye
4. Umntu okwishumi elivisayo okwaziyo ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo emva kokuswelekelwa ngumntu amthandayo.
5. Umqeshwa ovumayo kumphathi wakhe ukuba ebephazama, kodwa ufuna ukuzama kwakhona.
6. Umntu okwishumi elivisayo ofunda ukudlala isixhobo esitsha kwaye uqinisekile ukuba angayenza.
7. Umfana okhuthazwayo ukuba abize intombazana yeklasi ayithandayo.
8. Umntu ovuyayo ngempumelelo yabanye.
9. Umntwana onomdla wokuba ngumcimi-mlilo kwixa elizayo.

Imizekelo yokuzithemba okuphantsi

1. Umntwana ophethwe zi-phobias zentlalo.
2. Indoda enoxinzelelo olunzulu olukhokelela ekubeni isebenzise izinto ukuzenzakalisa.
3. Umfundi ongathathi nxaxheba eklasini ngenxa yokoyika ukuthetha into engeyiyo.
4. Umfazi oziva engakhuselekanga ngomzimba wakhe.
5. Umntu okwishumi elivisayo onamathela kwiqabane elinobundlobongela elingalixabisanga.
6. Umntu onengxaki yokuxhalaba.
7. Umntu okwishumi elivisayo ofuna ukuqinisekiswa ngabazali bakhe ukunika uluvo lwakhe.
8. Umfazi obeka umtshato wakhe kubantwana bakhe.
9. Umntu oziva enetyala rhoqo, ongenaxabiso kunye nongenakuzinceda.

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